There is this notion that long distance relationships often fail. Truly, most people have failed to maintain their long distance relationships and have ended up braking up, even though they had a very promising relationship.
A lot of people dread long distance relationships but most of the time we find ourselves in this situation due to circumstances beyond our control.
Nearly everyone has been involved in a long distance relationship at one point in their life, maybe when they were in school or during their youth service.
Being in a long distance relationship is not easy at all and it could sometimes be very depressing. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder but that same absence could be very exhausting and could drive you crazy. Most of the time you get lonely and wish your partner was with you but he isn’t. The extra distance makes many things unachievable.
If you are now the jealous type and one with trust issues, it makes it all the more harder.
They say that spending time together helps keep a relationship alive. But how do you do this when you are miles apart.
There are ways you could keep your relationship alive despite the distance between the both of you. These days, there are a lot of applications available on the Internet, such as Skype, viber and the likes of it on mobile phones and tablets that could help keep your relationships alive and bubbling.
Below are things that could help you have a successful long distance relationship.
1. Communication:
This is very important. The distance shouldn’t stop you from communicating with your partner. No matter your busy schedule, find time to really talk with each other. Be open and honest with your partner. Keep your partner updated with what’s going on in your life, however mundane some of the things may seem. There will be days when you ask your partner to remind you that he or she does indeed love you to the moon and back. Cry it out if you need to, you’ll feel better afterward. Send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. Say good morning and goodnight to each other. These little things could make the other person feel really loved and wanted.
2. Have a positive attitude:
View it as a learning journey for the both of you. See it as a test of your love for each other. Nobody ever said it was going to be easy but you don’t have to put yourself in a state of depression. You should be grateful that you have someone to love and someone who loves you in return. Many single people wet their pillows at night because they are lonely and have nobody to call their own. Be prepared to feel helpless from time to time. It’s unavoidable. Know that there will be days that you’ll feel left behind and jealous when you see others with their significant other.
3. Visit each other:
Phone calls, text messages and all are good but nothing beats seeing your partner face to face. Find time to pay each other visits. If you are apart because of work, you could travel on a Friday after work and be back by Sunday, that way you get to spend the weekend together. As a visit ends, begin planning the next one.
4. Trust:
This is very important in all relationships especially the long distance ones. You might both feel insecure at some point, especially when your partner is trying to have fun with friends of the opposite Se.x. But you should understand that you have to have a normal social life despite the distance. If you both trust each other, this helps strengthen your relationship irrespective of how far apart you are.
5. Don’t give in to pressure from friends:
Your friends might try to discourage and persuade you to break up with your partner, but you shouldn’t give in to them. You know what you truly want and if you feel the relationship is worth fighting for then fight for it no matter the distance. Some of those friends might be secretly jealous of you, though some might be genuinely concerned.
6. Commitment:
Commitment from both partners makes the relationship work over the miles. Treat your relationship with the respect it deserves and stay committed to each other.
