What’s that saying about being battered but not broken? Toke Makinwa might be taking the marital plunge again after all.
The popular OAP who has had mostly horrible things to say about her marital experience from her 18-month marriage to fitness trainer, Maje Ayida, says she just might give marriage another go.
Speaking during a Chat with Encomium magazine, the 31-year-old made it clear that she is no longer bitter about her failed marriage and that anything could happen.
When asked if she could give marriage another shot, she said,“It was a journey, we all go through different stages, we learn from them.
“Marriage is a beautiful thing. Next time we would be talking, I might be a married woman, who knows. Life is a journey. You are allowed to grow, it is a journey of growth, and be open, do what you are supposed to do when you are supposed to do it so that you can learn from your mistakes, become who you are supposed to be.”
Speaking on her perception of marriage, she said, “It is a beautiful institution. I am not coming from a bitter place, you would accept what happened.
“For me, it might be a marriage, for the next person, it might be a sick child. The most important thing is what you do with what you learnt from the situation.
“You are allowed to grow, it is a journey of growth, and be open, do what you are supposed to do when you are supposed to do it, so that you can learn from your mistakes, become who you are supposed to be.”
Speaking further, she said, “No one should see that your life is not perfect but I am here to change that. People should see you in your worst, which is how they can appreciate your success story. People should see you when you are down and under because you would still come up.
“If you reach the bottom, there is only one place to go which is the top. We need to eradicate shaming people to silence, most especially women. Women are held in high esteem.
“You can’t show to the world that you are heartbroken, you can’t show to the world that your marriage is not perfect because people would look at you and think there is something wrong with you. But there is nothing wrong with that person.
“She is walking through life. She is becoming what she is supposed to be. It is important that we unmask ourselves, let go off this tradition because people die in silence. There is more to life than the shame.”
Makinwa’s recently released must-tell book, “On Becoming”, revealed the hell she endured in her marriage since finding out about her husband’s betrayal in impregnating his longtime girlfriend, Anita Solomon.
Makinwa only recently officially divorced her husband over adultery, cruelty and irreconcilable differences.
