There are a lot of sex advice out there, and some of them are known as the ultimate sex rules that a lot of people follow. But did you know that some of these laws are doing more harm for your sex life than good.
Here are three rules you need to break ASAP.
Ladies First:
You must have hear guys say this time and time again. The guy will work hard to make sure she cums before he does. While this can seem sweet and polite, it is not always best. Any woman that knows her man is pausing his own pleasure for her will automatically feel pressured to cum. This will make it more likely that she will fake orgasm because she is not relaxed enough for the real thing. This rule turns sex into a routine act and that is so not hot. So, as a guy, be sure to pleasure her but do not make her orgasm a requirement before you can have your own fun too. Let things go naturally. If you really want her to orgasm, getting her there after you get yours is not the most terrible thing in the world. We all know most women do not orgasm to penetration alone anyway, so you can still go the oral sex, fingering, or sex toy route to get her there after you are done getting yours. She becomes more relaxed this way, making her more likely to cum.
The longer the better:
The guy goes on and on about going ’10 rounds’ or making love to her ‘all night long’ with the belief that this is an ultimate need for her. But when it comes to sex, quality is so much better than quantity. A 10-minute romp where both partners are passionate, aroused, climax and feel satisfied is better than hours of dull, ‘going through the motion’ sex. Focus on pleasuring each other and stop thinking about the damn clock. Give all your attention to each other and provide each other with the best sex experience, regardless of how long it takes.
Spontaneity is hotter:
Sure, there is something hot about unplanned sex, but planned sex can be extremely exciting in its own way, especially in a long term relationship. Scheduling a date and time for sex might seem unromantic, but for a busy couple whose sex life might be taking a hit, you should consider this. Imagine how exciting things can get if you both know you will be getting freaky at a particular date and time. As the D-Day comes closer, it begins to feel like you both have a secret no one knows about. You share a look in public, you share a sexy smile, you both get to prepare for the day, you send each other naughty messages to excite each other. It is like days of foreplay, because by the time you sex date arrives, you are so turned on with all the waiting and anticipation that all you want to do is rip each other’s clothes off. Now, tell us that doesn’t sound steamy.
